OK, you referred to the Beloved as potentially a window. A window to what?
To Real Self.
Wouldn't you still be an observer looking through a window, just reinforcing a more subtle form of duality?
You have a point, but words fail here. Let's just say it's a special window with a particular price to pay for looking through it.
I think I know what's coming...
Yes, the price tag is effacement of limited self.